This is a book for us all: the grieving and bereaved, ill and healthy. Told through a series of beautifully crafted stories taken from nearly four decades of clinical practice, Dr Mannix answers the most intimate questions about the process of dying with touching honesty and humanity. She makes a compelling case for the therapeutic power of approaching death not with trepidation but with openness, clarity and understanding. Open these pages and you will find stories about people who are like you, and like people you know and love. You will meet Holly, who danced her last day away; Eric, the retired head teacher who, even with Motor Neurone Disease, gets things done; loving, tender-hearted Nelly and Joe, each living a lonely lie to save their beloved from distress; and Sylvie, 19, dying of leukaemia, sewing a cushion for her mum to hug by the fire after she has died. These are just four of the book’s thirty-odd stories of normal humans, dying normal human deaths. They show how the dying embrace living not because they are unusual or brave, but because that’s what humans do. By turns touching, tragic, at times funny and always wise, they offer us illumination, models for action, and hope. Read this book and you’ll be better prepared for life as well as death. Dr Mannix was keynote speaker at the Irish Hospice Foundation 2019 conference.
Beaumont Library call number 306.9 MANN
On Grief and Grieving
Dr Elisabeth Kubler-Ross was one of the early pioneers in bereavement theory whose research with dying patients found that many of them go through five stages of grief beginning with denial and anger, and moving through bargaining and depression towards acceptance. In her later work, Kubler-Ross applied these five stages to bereaved people and said that we may go through some or all of the stages after experiencing a loss. Following her work, more recent research has indicated that grief after bereavement or loss often does not follow these five stages. Just as each person is unique, our grief journeys are individual and unique. As human beings, many of us have natural resilience and enough social support to help us cope with a loss, and over time we naturally move back and forth between coping with everyday life and feeling our grief. A small number of bereaved people, about 10%, may find that their grief feels stuck, or it is difficult to move on in any way, and if this happens it may be helpful to seek bereavement counselling.
Beaumont Library call number 155.937 KUBL
The wheel of life : a memoir of living and dying
After a series of strokes, Dr Elisabeth Kubler-Ross finds herself, aged seventy, confronted with her own death. Her memoir traces the events that shaped her intellectually and spiritually, and inevitably led her to explain her ultimate truth that death does not exist but is a transformation. We see how her birth in Switzerland as the second of triplet girls and her conventional, though happy, childhood formed the base from which her outspoken and confident views sprang. Then, from her work as a young woman in war-ravaged Poland to her pioneering counselling of the terminally ill, her legendary seminars on death and dying at the University of Chicago and her eye-opening discussions with people who had been revived after death, we learn how each experience provided her with a new piece of the puzzle. The Wheel of Life is an extraordinary, thought-provoking memoir of an exceptional woman.
York St Library call number 920 KUBL
Living with Death and Dying
In this compassionate and moving guide to communicating with the terminally ill, Dr. Elisabeth Küebler-Ross, the world's foremost expert on death and dying, shares her tools for understanding how the dying convey their innermost knowledge and needs. Expanding on the workshops that have made her famous and loved around the world, she shows us the importance of meaningful dialogue in helping patients to die with peace and dignity.
Beaumont Library call number 155.937 KUBL
When a Child Dies
When a Child Dies is an experiential book in which the reader is invited into the minds and hearts of a family devastated by the death of their youngest member. Through the voices of the child's parents and siblings, this book explores the many feelings and thoughts experienced following this tragedy. The feelings of shock, anger, rage, sadness, fear, terror, denial, yearning, guilt and loneliness are palpable throughout, showing how the family coped, and what helped them to come to terms with their loss. When a Child Dies ultimately uncovers a family slowly emerging from darkness and chaos to reach some kind of acceptance, and to make the decision to live rather than to merely exist.
York St Library call number 155.937 OSHE
Death and Dying
All families are affected by death. This book offers advice on how to cope with the pressures of bereavement. It covers: abnormal grieving; death of a child; death of a parent; death by suicide; death of a spouse; violent death; death and old age; stillbirth; death by choice; coping with dying; and coping with death. Irish author Colm Keane's website has resources on the topic of death and dying: https://www.colmkeane.com/death-dying/ Book cover image copyright Mercier Press.
Beaumont and York St Libraries call number 155.937 KEAN
The Tibetan book of living and dying
Written by the Buddhist meditation master and popular international speaker Soygal Rinpoche, this highly acclaimed book clarifies the majestic vision of life and death that underlies the Tibetan Buddhist tradition. It includes not only a lucid, inspiring and complete introduction to the practice of meditation but also advice on how to care for the dying with love and compassion, and how to bring them help of a spiritual kind. But there is much more besides in this classic work, which was written to inspire all who read it to begin the journey to enlightenment and so become 'servants of peace.'